Confidence is a statement, arrogance is a scream

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EN: I have always tried to surround myself with people smarter than me, more qualified, whom I have something to learn from, be it a professional environment, friends or relationships. However, over time I have had the pleasure or the inconvenience of interacting with different types of people.

Not once have I been told by first interactions with others “people say I’m arrogant, just telling so you know” and my answer is mostly “no, you’re not”. It took me a while until I made the difference between “arrogance” and “self-confidence”.

I met a few arrogant people. Yet their arrogance screamed frustration and low self-esteem. An arrogant person belittles you more than he motivates you because he thinks that’s the right way to show you his level of superiority. If you can’t acknowledge his true value and great skills don’t worry, he’ll throw them in your face, perhaps you’ll be capable enough to recognize them. There’s a possibility that you really do not know everything he knows, but you’ll never even have the chance to learn anything from him. After all, you’ll never be good enough, right? 🙂

On the other hand, self-confidence will never cry out for attention, because it doesn’t need others’ recognition. It doesn’t need to be shown off or to make others feel inferior. It’s the one which assumes mistakes and listens to the opinions of others without feeling offended in any way.

I learned valuable things from people who were much smarter and better qualified than me who had the patience to teach me and motivate me instead of belittling me.  I appreciate every day that I have the opportunity to be surrounded by such people who bring real values and ideas into my life.

 

RO: Am incercat mereu sa ma inconjor cu oameni mai inteligenti ca mine, mai calificati, de la care am ceva de invatat, fie ca a fost vorba de un mediu profesional, prietenii sau relatii. Totusi, de-a lungul timpului am avut placerea sau neplacerea de a interactiona cu diverse tipologii de oameni.

Si nu de putine ori mi s-a spus la primele interactiuni cu cineva “lumea spune ca sunt arogant, doar iti spun sa stii” si mereu raspund “nu, nu esti”. Mult timp a trecut pana am inceput sa fac diferenta intre “aroganta” si “incredere de sine”.

Si am intalnit oameni aroganti. Doar ca aroganta lor striga mai mult frustrare si incredere de sine scazuta. O persoana aroganta te injoseste mai mult decat te ridica pentru ca in conceptia lui, asta e modul in care isi arata superioritatea. Daca tu nu poti sa-i recunosti adevarata valoare si aptitudinele, lasa ca ti le arunca el in fata, poate-poate le observi daca esti suficient de capabil sa te ridici la nivelul acela. Exista posibilitatea ca intr-adevar sa nu stii cat stie el, dar nici nu vei avea vreodata sansa de a invata ceva de la el. Pana la urma, nu vei fi niciodata suficient de bun pentru el, nu? 🙂

Pe de alta parte, increderea de sine nu va striga niciodata dupa atentie, pentru ca nu are nevoie de recunoasterea celor din jur. Nu are nevoie sa se dea in spectacol sau sa-i faca pe ceilalti sa se simta inferiori. Isi asuma greselile si asculta parerile celorlalti fara sa se simta ofensata. Am invatat lucruri valoroase de la oameni mult mai inteligenti si mai bine pregatiti decat mine care au avut rabdare si m-au ridicat cand a fost nevoie in loc sa ma faca sa ma simt mica.  Si apreciez in fiecare zi ca am oportunitatea de a fi inconjurata de astfel de oameni care impartasesc valori si idei reale.

 

 

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