The better you are, the better you attract

Jason Briscoe

 

EN: I used to surround myself with people who made me feel bad about myself. I used to lower my standards just to keep people in my life because in my mind that was the right thing to do. You can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. Finding excuses for their behavior only delays your own peace of mind and happiness. I kept wondering why I attract the same destructive pattern into my life and instead of making a change, I blamed people around me.

It took me a while to realize that I was attracting people who reflected my own level of emotional health. That was the moment when I turned self-pity into self-love. I got rid of people who don’t know what they want from life, who half-loved me, who wanted me part time in their life, who practice gossip as an Olympic sport, who criticized me for simply breathing, who demanded love without giving any in return.

When you learn to love yourself, to set boundaries and limits, people who mistreat you disappear without you moving a finger. The moment you start taking responsibility for your insecurities and fears, there’s nothing that can stop you from living the life you want. When you use them in your favor, the power is in your corner. The better you become, the better you attract. People with real values, morals, ideas, desires and a healthy mindset will meet you halfway.

You shouldn’t accept less just because you feel “less” is enough. You should focus on everything or nothing at all. Yet, don’t demand everything from someone if you’re not ready to give it the same amount of effort. So go out there and be with the people who genuinely love you as much as you love them.

 

RO: Obisnuiam sa ma inconjor cu oameni care ma faceau sa ma simt prost cu felul meu de a fi. Obisnuiam sa-mi reduc standardele pentru a-i pastra in viata mea pentru ca in mintea mea asta era cea mai corecta abordare. Nu poti salva pe cineva ca nu-si doreste sa fie salvat. Gasirea constanta de scuze in legatura cu comportamentul lor nu face decat sa intarzie fericirea si linistea sufleteasca. Ma intrebam de ce atrag mereu acelasi tipar distructiv in viata mea, iar in loc sa fac o schimbare, preferam sa-i invinovatesc pe cei din jurul meu.

Mi-a luat ceva timp sa realizez ca atrag oameni care reflecta propriul meu nivel de inteligenta emotionala.  Acela a fost momentul cand am incetat sa-mi mai fie mila de alegerile mele si am transformat totul in iubire de sine. Am scapat de oamenii care nu stiu ce vor de la viata, care iti ofera iubire cu jumatate de masura, care te vor in viata lor pentru o scurta perioada de timp, care barfesc de parca ar fi sport olimpic, care te critica si cand respiri, care cer iubire fara sa ofere acelasi lucru in schimb.

Cand inveti sa  te iubesti, sa stabilesti limite, oamenii care te-au tratat gresit dispar din viata ta fara sa misti un deget. In momentul in care iti asumi responsabilitatea fata de nesigurantele, complexele si fricile tale, nimic nu te poate opri din a trai viata pe care ti-o doresti. Cand le folosesti in favoarea ta, puterea este de partea ta. Cu cat iti imbunatatesti felul de a gandi, cu atat vei atrage lucruri mai bune. Persoanele care au valori, idei, dorinte reale si o mentalitate sanatoasa te vor intalni la jumatatea drumului.

Nu trebuie sa accepti mai putin doar pentru ca “mai putin” este indeajuns pentru tine. Ar trebui sa te concentrezi pe totul sau nimic. Totusi, nu avea pretentia ca cineva sa-ti ofere totul daca tu nu esti pregatit sa oferi acelasi efort. Asadar, iesi afara si fii alaturi de oamenii care te iubesc la fel de mult cat ii iubesti si tu.

 

Photo credit: Jason Briscoe

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